Is it cheating?

Category: Dating and Relationships

Post 1 by dissonance (Help me, I'm stuck to my chair!) on Sunday, 20-Aug-2006 23:51:36

Hey all. So I was thinking, when someone is in a relationship with someone else, and they comment that another person is hot or attractive, do you think that that is considered cheating to look at another person and even compliment them if they don't mean anything by it?

Post 2 by Rune Knight (Ancient Demon - Darkness will always conquer Light!) on Monday, 21-Aug-2006 0:49:15

No I wouldn't consider any of it to be cheating. As long as they ain't doing any fuckin, kissin, or dating someone else behind your back then your fine but they way I see it is when your with someone you can look but not touch. If a girl got pissed at me for compimenting a girl even if I didn't mean anything by then hell someone has insecurity issues and that kind of a relationship I can't stand.

Post 3 by firebolt (Veteran Zoner) on Monday, 21-Aug-2006 3:27:39

No I don't consider that cheating. It's only human to look at other people when you're in a relationship or to think someone else is attractive and to comment on that. I'd rather hear my husband make the comment than keep it to himself. That's healthy comunication. we're not on some lonely island. We're surrounded by people all the time. As long as there's no messing around behind your partner's back it's not cheating.

Post 4 by UnknownQuantity (Account disabled) on Monday, 21-Aug-2006 4:08:27

No I don't consider it cheating either.

Post 5 by Resonant (Find me alive.) on Monday, 21-Aug-2006 4:47:24

Of course it's not cheating. But then, if it's really causing insecurity or jealousy, it's probably something you need to talk out between you. Having the moral high-ground isn't much good if it's still driving a huge wedge into the relationship.

Post 6 by HauntedReverie (doing the bad mango) on Monday, 21-Aug-2006 5:35:28

not cheating. I agree, look and comment, but don't touch

Post 7 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Monday, 21-Aug-2006 8:35:31

No but it would do bugger all to help their partner's self esteem and could be taken as a type of psycholoical abuse.

Post 8 by frequency (the music man) on Monday, 21-Aug-2006 10:31:44

so for blind folks, is looking touching, and touching using something other than your hands to touch?

Post 9 by Caitlin (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Monday, 21-Aug-2006 12:44:47

I agree with Resonant and HauntedReverie. It's not cheating, but if it brings up insecurity feelings for either of the partners, it should be discussed. And certainly no touching or physical flirting, that's just not proper/nice/good relationship etiquette.

Post 10 by dissonance (Help me, I'm stuck to my chair!) on Monday, 21-Aug-2006 14:59:55

I agree with you guys. What we mean by looking but not touching I think is that you can comment but don't make a move or flirt, not necessarily physicacl touching but that too.

Post 11 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Monday, 21-Aug-2006 19:41:38

i don't consider it to be cheating. you have to have that open communication in a relationship, y'know?

Post 12 by Marissapc2010 (Zone BBS is my Life) on Tuesday, 22-Aug-2006 0:01:39

No, not cheeting at all. It can make some jelis, but its not even remotely cheeting. I mean, maybe its kind of rude to comment. But, I don't no. I don't think its that big of a deal.

Post 13 by SensuallyNaturallyLiving4Today (LivingLifeAndLovingItToo) on Wednesday, 06-Dec-2006 17:30:04

I think it would make me a little sad, perhaps a bit ensecure if my man were to tell me that he found another woman attractive. That would however be true honesty and that would denote good communication, which is key. If he commented that he liked another woman's hair style, perfume shade of lip stick, etc I might use that to make my self more attractive to him. Goblin, I don't think it could be called psychological abuse unless it was intended to hurt your partner or make them change or to guilt them into doing something for you. I think to a degree it would be healthy communication to discuss such things on occation.

Post 14 by Damia (I'm oppinionated deal with it.) on Wednesday, 06-Dec-2006 17:47:27

No i wouldn't concitter it cheeting and if he could tell me why he thought that and it could be something I could change, then I would be greatfull. I would concidder it cheeting if he went more than looking inviting out for a lunch alone etc etc...

Post 15 by SensuallyNaturallyLiving4Today (LivingLifeAndLovingItToo) on Wednesday, 06-Dec-2006 17:57:05

Blind man in relationship. Blind man looks at other woman. Looks with hands. Blind man sleeps on couch. Blind man, maybe get hands cut off. Blind man should hope no other body parts cut off too.

Post 16 by jessmonsilva (Taking over the boards, one topic at a time.) on Wednesday, 06-Dec-2006 18:11:46

I don't think it's cheating. Sure I might be a little jealous but by no means is it cheating.

Post 17 by DoubleTrouble (Generic Zoner) on Wednesday, 06-Dec-2006 18:41:59

I don't think it's cheating because when you love someone, you gotta put some trust in them. As long as they don't do anything about it then that fine. Paying a compliment to someone doesn't mean that you have to think that your girlfriend/boyfriend is going to have a relationship with them. It's just like today when my fiance told Quinten that she have a internet crush on him. It just words and at the end of the day, only I can make her scream with pleasure and only she can make me cream! haha


Thanh

Post 18 by Damia (I'm oppinionated deal with it.) on Wednesday, 06-Dec-2006 19:13:16

lol thann and an interesting couple you two do make too. Grins. So tell me were you two having phone sex when you were in the kitchen? lol just kidding.

Post 19 by DoubleTrouble (Generic Zoner) on Wednesday, 06-Dec-2006 19:16:53

We have sex anywhere and anytime as long as there's room for the banging!

Post 20 by sparkie (the hilljack) on Wednesday, 06-Dec-2006 19:38:36

I agree with all said here.
Troy

Post 21 by SensuallyNaturallyLiving4Today (LivingLifeAndLovingItToo) on Friday, 08-Dec-2006 17:30:25

Wo, loverboy, you must be quite demanding. I wish you both much luck and great happiness.

Post 22 by Damia (I'm oppinionated deal with it.) on Friday, 08-Dec-2006 19:41:27

don't worry heather they will be happy as long as they can still both get pleasure from each other. lol teasing you two. sends huggles to thann and michelle. While the clothes are still on please

Post 23 by Winterfresh (This is who I am, an what I am about. If you don't like it, too damn bad!!!) on Monday, 18-Dec-2006 12:27:01

I agree. Me and my guy actually talk about that cause he thinks Jewel's hot and I must say I have no prob with that.

Post 24 by Ukulele<3 (Try me... You know you want to.) on Monday, 18-Dec-2006 19:24:01

lol Candice. You know you wanna hug me naked! hehe

Post 25 by OrangeDolphinSpirit (Despite the cost of living, have you noticed how popular it remains?) on Tuesday, 19-Dec-2006 1:02:30

Well, it doesn't matter who else Mark says is hot because I know I'm the best. LOL. I'm secure enough with myself not to let it bother me. I'd more than likely agree or disagree with him, depending on who it was, actually. Hehehehe.

Post 26 by SensuallyNaturallyLiving4Today (LivingLifeAndLovingItToo) on Friday, 09-Feb-2007 16:38:14

It can make me a little uncomfortable if my partner is enthusing over another woman, but as long as he keeps his hands to him self I really don't mind. After all, if he tells me that he finds so-and-so attractive I might look at what attracts him to her and try to encorperate some of what he finds appealing into my own look. Now, this is not trying to change my self, just a bit of my physical appearance which can be a fun make-over.

Post 27 by Liz (The Original) on Tuesday, 20-Feb-2007 8:07:57

Yay for resurrecting old topics?

Post 28 by changedheart421 (I've now got the bronze prolific poster award! now going for the silver award!) on Sunday, 22-Apr-2007 13:36:07

I feel it is not considered cheating. Everyone is entitled to give people a good compliment.

Post 29 by suzy (Veteran Zoner) on Tuesday, 01-May-2007 9:10:27

I agree i don't think its cheating as long as it dos'nt go any further and your not thinking about that person more than your partner

Post 30 by OrangeDolphinSpirit (Despite the cost of living, have you noticed how popular it remains?) on Wednesday, 02-May-2007 10:03:11

Here's something else to add to my previous post ...
Just because you're on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the menu!

Post 31 by The Giggling Cowboy (Veteran Zoner) on Friday, 04-May-2007 16:11:07

I like that about the menu. Cute! LOL!

Post 32 by josh (124) on Friday, 02-Nov-2007 8:02:17

hmmm. good job with the topic...

Post 33 by maroon five (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Friday, 02-Nov-2007 8:24:01

um, yeah, what the last post said. lol

Post 34 by soaring eagle (flying high again!) on Friday, 02-Nov-2007 8:25:44

everyone looks or listens. as long as you don't take it beyond a look. Is it a natural thing to look at others??

Post 35 by TheLeslieThing (I can't call it a day til I enter the zone BBS) on Sunday, 04-Nov-2007 23:02:27

no. ther's no harm in looking at someone and saying that they're hot. you're just looking. you're not doing anything more than that. so there really isn't any harm in it. at least I don't think so anyways.

Leslie